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"Thy wife shall be as a FRUITFUL VINE by the sides of thy house." Psalm 128:3a

Build the House                   by D. Spearman
Happy Homes                     alliteration by J. Kirkpatrick
Healing Hands                     by L. Hosher

Let me become the wife who is under submission
and lifting up my husband in his place of headship.

Let me become the wife who continually ministers
the Word of God to my husband in love.

Let me cease from all other labour, to come apart in
my closet of prayer, covering my head
without wrath and doubting.

Let the hidden part of my heart come forth
with a meek and quiet spirit,
trusing, yielding and willingly
offering my will to his will.

I Tim 2:8             I Pet 3:4         Pro 31:11        Acts 6:4         I Pet 3:1-6

by J. Kirkpatrick


by D. Spearman OH

"Who is there among you of all His people? His God be with him, and let him go up to Jerusalem, which is in Judah, and build the house of the Lord God of Israel, He is the God, which is in Jerusalem." Ezra 1:3

The Lord is speaking to His people to go up to Jerusalem, the true place of worship, and build the house that He will inhabit. If the Lord is not part of that building process, the house is built in vain. We are the living stones that will be used to build His dwelling place.

"Ye, also as lively stones, are built up a spiritual house, an holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices, acceptable to God by Jesus Christ." *** I Peter 2:5

"Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain which build it," *** Psa 127:1.

What type of home are we constructing? Are we building our homes by God's specifications? Our homes need to be in order and well pleasing to God. When our homes are in order, the church will be in order. The most important principle that must be learned is the headship of the home. The order of authority in the home is:

Christ               man            woman        children

To lay the proper foundation for our homes, we must begin with Christ as the head. "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ," I Cor 11:3.


The husband is under the authority of Christ. He is the head over his wife. Just as the husband establishes the authority of the wife, the husband must listen to the voice of the Father so he knows the correct way to instruct the wife. The husband is held accountable if he does not uphold the ways of the Father. He must walk in what the Father tells him, so the woman can walk in what the husband tells her, so the children can walk in what the mother tells them. When the child is held responsible, he can be corrected three ways: by the father, by the mother, and by Christ Jesus. When the woman is held responsible she can be corrected two ways: by the husband, and by Christ Jesus. When the husband is held responsible, he can be corrected only one way; and that is by Christ Jesus. The child should never correct the mother. The wife should never correct the husband. When this order of authority is established in our homes, then the church will become more effective. Everyone will then understand the proper order of authroity in the Body of Christ.


The wife is under the authority of her husband. She will instruct her children in the way her husband has instructed her to. She will uphold the ways of the husband to the children. We have a cat. My husband has made it clear that the cat is to stay outside. At first, I did not say anything if the children brought in the cat. But the Lord would not let me rest. The Father's decision that the cat remain outside was to be upheld whether my husband was present or not. This is respecting and following the authority of the husband. If he does not approve what is being done by the wife, but yet has not instructed the wife, she cannot be held accoutable. BUT, if he has instructed her, and she refuses it, she is held accountable because she is out of order.


Our homes must be built in such a way as to prepare our children with the training they need in the ways that they should go, Pro 22:6. A child that is not trained, or is left to himself will have great difficulty living among other people or supporting himself. Very young children do not have the ability to reason by themselves. How often does the child do something, and when you ask them why, they say "I don't know."? My son is always saying, "I didn't mean to!" He cannot reason what his actions will bring about. That is why parents need to instruct their children, preparing them before they go out. If the child is instructed, then he is left without excuse when he does wrong, and the disobedience can then be dealt with. If the child has not been instructed, he cannot be held accountable. The accountability is on the parents. The child is to be taught three main things:

To love God and walk in all His ways

To respect parents and anyone with authority

How to listen and be quiet

If these three areas are taught to our children, it will help them succeed for the rest of their lives. These are the same three principles that will make them good parents and good followers of the Lord Jesus Christ. When a child is instructed in these 3 areas, it makes it much easier to teach the child other things. We must also remember that they are but children. Let them run, play, get excited, laugh and explore. Their little minds do not think like ours. They do not just come into knowledge, thy have to be taught everything. A small example to illustrate this is: One day in school, I told the 5 year olds to make a circle on their paper, just up to the dotted oine. We did this for 2 days, and even though I gave them examples, they would not do it. I was getting a little iirtated. Then the Lord opened up MY understanding and said, "They do not know what a dotted line is." When I explained to them which one was the dotted line, they were able to do it. The Lord really showed me the simplicity of young minds. They do not share our vocablulary, or our knowledge. We are told not to provoke our children to anger, Col 3:21. Thinking that they should know something without being taught is provoking the child.

The mother is usually the one who is with the children, and she does most of the training. The children must learn to respect the authority of the mother. I was having a hard time establishing my authority with our children. I felt foolish and inadequate that I had to keep running to my husband to make the children listen to me. One day when I was troubled about this, God asked me a question, "Who establihsed Jesus' authority?" I said, "The Father!. The Father always went before Jesus and established His authority," John 11:42. This was such a relief to me! My authority with my children is established by my husband, NOT BY ME.

Our homes must meet God's specifications beginning with the proper foundation:

with Christ as the head;

the husband in authority to Christ, and the head of the wife;

the wife in authority to her husband;

and the children in authority to their parents.

This proper order of authority is established by God, and we can apply everything we learn about authority in our homes to the Body of Christ.


by J. Kirkpatrick OH

How many happy homes have been hit hard by the hammers and hatchets held over their heads by husbands or helpmeets who have heaved heartless, hurtful, hostile hammers?

How helpful the hammer of honour! Held high it handles whole households with honest, heartfelt hits, well-aimed to hasten healing and hope.


A melody by L. Hosher

Healing Hands! Healing Hands!
Lord, I only what to be your Healing Hands.

In a world that's filled with doubt.
Lord, I'll help to bring them out,

If you'll only let me be your healing hands!

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